Saturday, January 23, 2016

the baby is nine months!

Lilly has surpassed the amount of time she was in utero now! It's more evident to me how much of a tiny blip in time pregnancy is/was. Crazy!!!



Wearing: 9-month clothes & pjs (some 6-mo pjs too!), 12-mo pants/leggings, size 3 diaps.

Talking: Allllll the time! Mama, Dada, lots of babbling. I speak a lot of Spanglish to you. Más leche, ¿por favor? 

Moving: Scooting, crawling backwards upsides down, rolling, jumping in the jumperoo!

Sleep: In our bed, 2-4hr stints. 

Eating: Squash, banana pumpkin, green beans, sweet potatoes, avocado, chicken, cheese, yogurt. Occasionally beets, pears (yuck!), peas (double yuck!), corn, etc. Still lots of milk!

Soothing:  BOOBS. Binky is still a necessity. But you cry out for "MAMAMAMAMAMAAAAA" meaning milk.

Health: Updates on Monday!

What We Call You:  Lilly Belle, Lilly Boo, Boo Boo, Boosicle, Baby Boo, Beauty, LB, Lilly, Drama Llama, Bubb, Bubbsie, Bubby, Sugar Boo.

Milestones:

- First Christmas & NYE!



- Second time to visit the ocean!


- You spent time with your pals Levi, Sara, Henry, and baby Jackson!


- Giggling at Granddan


- Ready for Valentine's Day!

- And so much crazy hair!!!!


Tuesday, January 19, 2016

what to do when you're waiting on a baby

First -- let me say pregnancy amnesia is SUCH a real thing and I REALLY have to focus to remember where I was mentally and physically at 9 months preggo to write this.

Go for as many walks as you can. Oh did I say walks? I mean crawls. Because a medium-paced snail canter is about where you max out these days. But it helps with moving labor along!

(I don't suggest really strenuous hikes. I was mad as a hornet and totally out of breath here, haha.)

Eat a delicious meal by yourself. Savor that solitude! I had shrimp & grits for brunch the day I birthed Lilly. It was glorious. If you're not diabetic, get a fancy-ass mocha and a macaron and live in the lap of luxury.

Get your hair cut, colored, and blown out to perfection. If you really luck out you'll go into labor a few hours later and get to preserve that stylish look!

(10:30am before my water broke at 2pm - most considerate baby ever!)

Have a fun errand to run, like buying new eyeliner? Do it! Spontaneously hit up a boutique with narrow aisles that it isn't easy to wield a big-ass carseat carrier around.

If you can be comfortable sitting for 90 minutes, go see a movie! I still haven't been in the 39 weeks Lilly has been out of utero.

Go on a date! Something super fun. A scrumptious meal, maybe a couples' massage. Dress up that super cute humungo-bump (this is as big as it gets!!! And trust me, it's way cuter in firm basketball shape than immediately when it deflates postpartum). Don't wear heels, though. I used to get the WORST calf cramps when I wore heels that far along.

(Note the flat sandals.)

Get a pedicure and gel manicure. Admittedly, I remember thinking, "Wow! A massage chair is so much LESS relaxing when you're this uncomfortably pregnant!" But you'll be happy to have the pampering and look more pulled together when you feel like a hormonal mess afterwards.
(pinky-peach because girl)

Go ahead and schedule a pedicure for 6-8 weeks after baby's arrived. It'll be so much more enjoyable and you'll LOVE the break!

(This time you can have WINE!!!) 

Update the storage on your phone or delete old pictures you don't want or need -- that sucker's gonna get blown up soon!

Utilize nesting energy. Make the bed with new sheets (if you can reach that far), windex the windows and storm door, or maybe just hit up the fancy carwash place and have somebody else detail your ride.

Pull out clothing that might be transitional for you to wear postpartum. Hello, non-constructing comfy knit jersey sundresses! Howdy, lululemon Astro leggings! What up, sports shorts and piko tops?! Just don't bother with jeans. You won't be wearing them anytime soon, crazy lady.

(Nursing tank + sports shorts = your new mom wardrobe) 

Get an oil change if you need it, or go get a top-off if you're within 3,000 miles of your last one. It sucks waiting in a car with a hungry wailing baby, (especially in July!!!!).

See friends! It's always exciting to hang out with reeeeeeally pregnant friends. You never know when they're going to go in labor! Maybe you'll get to see it start!!!

Local ladies -- Go get the Nashville Hot Chicken Po' Boy from Party Fowl, if you have the spiciest affinity and tolerance I did while preggo. Maybe I could've even stomached the poltergeist (the hottest) version -- I was a beast with spicy food back then.

Go to Costco/Sams for one last huge haul AND/OR Schedule your Amazon Prime Pantry subscriptions. You're going to need COFFEE, coffee filters, toilet paper, paper towels, ziploc bags, cleaning supplies, Kleenexes, shampoo, soap, razors, all that stuff. Go list crazy and write out everything you'll need. Got pets? Don't forget their food and cat litter or flea/tick meds, etc!

Go to as many prenatal yoga classes as you can muster! I know you don't want to move, but it's the most relaxing thing you can do and one of the few opportunities to actually feel physically decent (rather than just SO UNCOMFORTABLE). Local? Go to Blooma!

Distract yourself with literally anything -- coffee dates, Skype calls with your long-lost BFF, shopping, reading a great book, an addictive netflix original series. I highly recommend Bloodlines!

Sleep, if you can. I know it's not comfortable either. My BumpNest pillow was my saving grace.

(sleeping like a... cat)

Make freezer meals, if they don't require a lot of standing / long prep times. Better yet, practice saying, "YES PLEASE!" to everyone who offers to bring you food. (I prepped a total of ZERO freezer meals. I ate a total of A LOT of food other people cooked or bought. Thanks, friends!)

Send out your thank-you notes. It's near impossible to write them once the baby arrives.

Go to church, the mall, Target, anywhere with lots of people with germs you don't want to infect your newborn baby with. I remember being horrified when my mom told me I needed to stay at home with baby for 8 weeks before taking her out in public. TWO MONTHS?! In reality we made it out a little earlier, but not without panicking and glaring at anyone who coughed within fifty feet of us.

(Braving Lilly-for-Target lines the Sunday before LB's birthday)

Write in that "Expecting You" section of your baby's baby book. You'll actually be writing it in the present tense and won't have to think hard to remember when you fill it out.

If you love baths, take a lot of baths. One word is going to keep you from them 4-6 weeks postpartum:  lochia. Sorry, y'all.

Organize nursery closet by size. This will make things much more manageable in the baby wear department.

Is there anything you can automate work-wise that will help you transition to maternity leave? Do anything you can possibly do to alleviate stress on the work front, ESPECIALLY if you own your own business. Set up that away message at least a month in advance of your due date so all you have to do is click the date to start that sucker up.

Put a yoga mat or large towel or dry-cleaning bag or SOMETHING in the car in case you have to ride to the hospital post-water-breaking. Because it keeps on breaking. Forever until baby comes. (Also -- BLACK LEGGINGS!)

As crazy as it sounds, enjoy this period of time. It goes by so fast (even though it feels so slow!). You'll never again be this physically close to your little one. She or he is safe in your womb, and you can selfishly enjoy keeping her/him all to yourself for just a little longer. Watch this (around the 4:30 mark) and weep.

(birthday eve eve, savoring dat bump)

Finally -- Get excited! You're going to have a baby! Your life is going to change dramatically for the better SO SOON! You literally created another human being. It is a miracle and incredible and you don't even know!!!!!

Friday, January 15, 2016

five on friday

It's a new year, and I'm devoting a little bit more time to this sweet little personal outlet. Perhaps I'll make it a goal to consistently do "Five on Friday" posts?



ONE

Preparation is EVERYTHING (almost). In hopes of bettering my life and business and overall everything, I'm going to be looking at preparing to set myself up for success. One way? Setting goals for the week ahead on a Friday evening/weekend. Next week, I think I'd like to...
1. Work on blog planning for personal + business blogs
2. Attempt to meal plan?
3. Figure out how I can work out next week
4. Drink no more than 3 cups of coffee (not mugs -- but what the coffee maker considers to be "cups") a day
5. Drink at least 4 glasses of water


TWO

Subconsciously, I think I made it a resolution to be more social and plan more gatherings with friends. So far, so good -- our weekends have been packed with friend dates and parties! Yay for January not being so dreary!



THREE

Sleep has been really lacking lately. Lilly is getting up 2-3 times a night after going to bed late and waking up pretty early. How will we ever get back to a consistent and ample sleep schedule? HELP!


FOUR

I discovered Creative Market yesterday and am OBSESSED. The fonts! The product mockups (i.e. styled stock photography)! I'm getting really into design-y things this year and I looooove it!


FIVE

Drew and I have been following the Bible in 365 Days plan on our YouVersion app, and have stuck with it thus far! We're really enjoying reading the bible -- it starts you in Genesis, Matthew, Psalms and Proverbs, and the translation is super easy to understand -- and discussing it nightly. Reading Genesis as an adult has been really eye-opening; I eschewed the old testament for so long with this ridiculous idea that it was null and void after the new testament came along. It can be hard to read, especially when you see how much sin and brokenness there was (umm, like today), but I had a revelation last week after talking to a friend about it and discovering GotQuestions.org. For whatever reason, I figured that all the saintly figures in the bible didn't routinely screw up (because they're saintly, right?). But the Bible illustrates that no man was or is without sin except for Jesus and Jesus alone. So they don't sugarcoat the ugly characteristics/decisions/behaviors of all those biblical characters. It tells the full story -- for example, Lot was righteous but he still offered up his virginal daughters to be gang-raped by the villagers of Sodom (WRONG THING TO DO).

Another added advantage of actually reading the bible is that I've been given the opportunity to talk about the stories I've been reading in everyday conversation with other people. 

Admittedly, I feel like a "beginner Christian" right now. I've gone to church all my life and read chapters and books of the bible here and there, but never on a daily basis or from a wholistic perspective. It's embarrassing that it's taken me this many years to develop a consistent bible-reading practice but I'm giving myself the grace to acknowledge that it's better now than never. I'm excited to see where God takes me with this new spiritual discipline. And it's already producing fruit -- revelations, opportunities to discuss with others, and inadvertently giving me strength with temptations. (Like saying no to the multiple glasses of champagne I was offered on Tuesday night!!!!) 



{glass is full but I didn't drink it! #littlevictories}

Onto the weekend! Drew's coming home from a week working away, so we are looking forward to seeing him and hopefully getting some house organization projects tackled. I at least need to go get an oil change and drop off Goodwill donations and dry-cleaning...

Thursday, January 14, 2016

the baby is eight months! {belated}

Confessional: Totally almost missed this one. Turning 8 months over Christmas -- Mama wasn't so on top of keepsaking the milestone! Sorry, LB!




Wearing:  Mostly 9-month outfits but a lot of 12-month pants and leggings. Size 3 diapers. Still getting good use out of her first couple of Lilly Pulitzer shift dresses (which are now more of precious little tops -- love the way they make them so you can get so many months' wear out of them!) layered over long-sleeve onesies, wore her Christmas ensembles pretty much daily, and lots of hairbows to parties.


{attended first book signing in matching lilly p!}

Talking: We always talk about how she's been a chatty Cathy, but this time she was legitimately talking -- said Mama and Dada for the first time this month! We about DIED when she did!

Moving: Still not crawling, but roly-poly-olying and jumping in the jumperoo!

Sleep: What sleep? Sadly our perfect nights of flawless sleep have come to an end. You will sleep in in the mornings, provided you're in our bed snuggling us/me, but the 8-12 hours of sleep are behind us. Teething?

Eating: Mostly breastmilk, but you sample other foods, eat a good deal of avocado (#likemotherlikedaughter), and sample sweet potatoes, carrots, pears, greek yogurt, the works. I'm trying to not do rice cereal much because it just seems to have minimal nutritional content, but you do still like it. You tried to snatch a cookie out of Grandma's hand the other day and she slapped it away from you. Hilarious! You're definitely one of our own!

Soothing:  You did amazing while I was gone to California, despite the distance and not being able to nurse from the tap. (I took it a lot rougher than you, fortunately!) Binky + a good snuggler are all you really need. You certainly didn't get put down very much... maybe that's why we're lagging on the crawling department. #sorrynotsorry




Health: 17.3lbs, 26", in good health!


What We Call You:  Lilly Belle, Lilly Boo, Boo Boo, Boosicle, Baby Boo, Beauty, LB, Lilly, Drama Llama, Bubb, Bubbsie, Bubby.

Milestones:

- First Thanksgiving!



- You learned to really jump in the jumperoo after Aunt B helped assist you.
- You said your first words -- Mama and Dada.
- You met Santa -- no tears!
- You were away from me for 4 days and did great with Grandma & Daddy!
- You spent time with your pals Levi, Sara, & Henry!


- You met Miss Eleni!


- You're a little obsessed with the gigantic caterpillar Grandmama Cass got you!


- We attended the Holiday Open House in Dulce Desserts' revamped space and you really wanted some coconut cake. Can't blame you!


- The Dyce family Christmas gathering wore you out!


- We wore matching stripes to Brentwood Baptist's Christmas concert!


- You joined Grandma and me for our traditional Christmas cookie baking day!


- Never one to miss a party, you crashed the 12th Annual Crew Christmas at our house.


- You braved yet another 10-hour car trip from Nashville to Savannah, sleeping and entertaining yourself the whole way. Perfect baby! You got a lot of Poppy time in while we were there!


I don't know how it's possible, but life does get better every month with you, precious one!

Thursday, January 7, 2016

new year, new resolve!

People tend to be in one of two camps, I've noticed as of late. Those that embrace the "new year, new you" concept and those that eschew it. I like to embrace it -- it satisfies my perfectionist tendencies and optimistic outlook. Of course I tend to shoot too high and get disappointed, but goals do drive me. I love the idea of a clean slate, wiping away the hurt and failure and disappointment of the previous year (esp those as challenging as 2015), and it makes me feel like we all got a forceful press of the reset button of life. 

The negative part is the shooting too high and drawing towards all-or-nothing mentalities. I want to fix everything -- every character flaw, every bad habit, even nonproductive tendency I have, the appearance of everything in my life -- and the reality is things change incrementally over series of many many small decisions. It takes a lot more work than just a resolution. The decision to change is just the first of a zillion to come. And those subsequent decisions are the hard ones to make.

I want a tidier life. A simpler, richer one. To make better choices day in and day out. Better grasp of balance and pursuit of purpose. All minor things, right? ;)
Goals:
1. Wake earlier (8am or before, most days!)
2. Make healthier choices (Start legitimate barre membership / Eat balanced meals)
3. Put Lilly on a more consistent sleep / nap schedule
4. Go sober
5. Keep house tidier on a consistent basis (Make bed / Utilize nap and childcare-provided hours better / Pick up in the mornings and evenings to keep things organized / Pare through belongings all the time to have less)

So far, so good. One week in and 51 to go!